Why wasn’t I invited to the wedding? 

I’m not attending if you invited Aunt Becky.

I can’t believe you didn’t ask me to be a part of your wedding party.

If you aren’t going to use the bridesmaid dresses I picked out, I’m going to be offended…

Your wedding should be a special day full of excitement and joy, NOT stress and overwhelm. Weddings can stir up the dust in friendships and families, creating stress and drama for the happy couple right before (or even ON) their special day. So how do you deal with drama surrounding your wedding?

“I’m so happy my wedding is over… There was so much drama with people around this one day, it was crazy.”

That’s what one bride told us after dealing with a major wedding drama. Her maid of honor told her she wasn’t coming to the wedding just weeks before her big day, AND that she was keeping the bridesmaid dress that the bride paid for!

Wedding drama is NO FUN. We’ve been there!

You can’t control what other people do, but we have some tips to help you navigate these difficult situations and project your joy.

HERE’S THE BEST WAYS TO DEAL WITH WEDDING DRAMA!

It’s Your Special Day

Everyone has an opinion, but remember, it’s your special day. If you jump through hoops to please people, they’ll find something else to get upset about. Worse yet, you’ll look back on your wedding with regret. 

Everyone gets their own special day to plan it exactly how they want it—this one is YOURS!

WHAT IS THEIR MOTIVATION?

Often we have a few friends and family members who tend to be “more susceptible” to offense. They’re the ones we think about as we make decisions, already anticipating their reaction to everything we do. That should be a clue right there!

Ask yourself: Is this person upset because they really want what’s best for me or have been genuinely hurt, or are they stirring up drama out of self-motivation or the need to control things?

Don’t waste time worrying and trying to please somebody that doesn’t have your best interests at heart—it’s their problem, not yours. 

KEY: If people love you and really want to help celebrate your big day, they’ll want what YOU want, not what THEY want! 

Try to Talk it Out

If the drama is between you and a specific person, it’s best to talk to them directly about it and why it made you or them upset. It’s possible it was a simple misunderstanding.

KEY: Do not approach the conversation from a place of false responsibility. Explain your point of view and hear their perspective, but don’t jump through hoops to make them happy.

We can’t promise this will solve the conflict, but as long as you reassure the person you are for them, you can mentally step away from the drama with a clear conscience. If they choose to hold on to the offense, that’s up to them. Don’t rise to their level; simply disengage with the drama. 

If this person continues to stir up trouble, it may be best to have your fiance or a family member talk to them, remove them from your wedding party, or uninvite them. 

Focus on What’s Really Important

Down the road, you won’t care about the petty drama that people tried to stir up around your wedding. You’ll remember your wedding day as the wonderful day you married the love of your life.

You can’t make people choose to do the right thing, but you can choose to keep your focus on what’s really important. 

Don’t let other people steal your joy during this exciting time! 

TUNNEL VISION

We’ve all heard the infamous expression, “Love is blind.” Well, in this case, that is your superpower! 

When people try to drag you into drama, the best thing you can do is tune it out and focus on your future with your fiance. 

Marriage is often a time when friendships and relationships shift, and that’s okay! Appreciate the people who are for you and support you, and reevaluate relationships with people who are causing drama and strife in your life. 

KEY: Don’t give other people the power to ruin your special day.

What advice would you give someone dealing with drama around their wedding day? Let us know in the comments below!

Happy wedding planning! And don’t forget to check out our line of unique booklet wedding invitations, personalized where YOU can tell YOUR love story!